STOP BULLYING

Bullying is a loan word from the English language. Bullying comes from the word meaning bully bully, those who disturb the weak. Some terms in Indonesian society that is often used to describe the phenomenon of bullying of which is oppression, bullying, hazing, bullying, isolation, and intimidation.

Bullying is repeated physical attacks, psychological, social, or verbal, is performed in a position defined situational forces for their own benefit or satisfaction. Bullying is an early form of aggressive behavior that is rude behavior. Can be physical, psychological, through words, or even a combination of all three. This can be done by groups or individuals. Perpetrators take advantage of others who saw vulnerable.

Bullying is an act in which one or more people try to hurt or control others by violent means. There are many types of bullying. Could harm the physical forms, such as hitting, pushing, and so on. In the form of verbal was insulting, snapped, and using harsh words, while the social forms such as isolating, and ignore people. Some examples of bullying most frequently encountered around us are seniors confront the younger classes as judged act. Student orientation period that ended badly because of the excessive seniors work on the new students. Classmates who considered odd isolated, and no one wants to be friends with him.

Impact of Bullying

Impact for victims

Bullying can make a person feel anxious and frightened. Can affect the concentration of learning in school and lead them to avoid school. If the bullying continues in the long term it can affect students' self-esteem, social isolation increases, raises withdrawn behavior, make teenagers vulnerable to stress and depression, and insecurity. Worse yet, bullying can lead teens to do reckless, even kill, or commit suicide. If the override bullying victim repeatedly, then the victim will feel depressed and angry. He was angry with himself or against bullies.

Even for those around him and to adults who can not or do not want to help him. It is kemudan starting to affect academic achievement. Seeing no longer able to come up with constructive ways to control his life, he may retreat further into isolation. The negative impact of bullying also looks at the decline in intelligence test scores and students' analytical skills.

Impact for perpetrators

In general, these actors have a high confidence with high self-esteem as well. Tend to be aggressive with the behavior of pro-violence, typical of the rampart, irritability and impulsivity. The perpetrators of this bullying has a strong need to dominate others and less empathy towards the target. Bullies can not develop healthy relationships. Less capable of looking at it from another perspective. Considers that they are strong and preferably so as to affect the pattern of social relations in the future.

By doing the bullying, the perpetrator will assume that they have the power of the state. If allowed to continue without intervention, bullying can lead to the formation of other behaviors such as child abuse and other criminal behavior.

Why did happen bullying?

The perpetrators bully get satisfaction from the oppressive people. He felt stronger and more powerful because there are people who are afraid of him. Maybe he was thinking, he would gain popularity in schools as feared by the other students. Another reason is because they repress their envy in excess of the target of bullying them. They feel threatened by the presence of someone who is prettier or smarter than them. Or actually they have a problem that causes them to oppress to channel their anger to others. They do not know what impact bullyingnya actions against their victims. So they do not feel guilty for his actions.

Why could become a victim of bullying?

People who are usually targeted for repression is a person who has a noticeable difference compared to the others. This difference could be physical, style of dress, and behavior. The most common example is the seniors do not like the younger class that act, so dilabrak out by class brothers. This led the juniors feel scared or afraid to act wandering around the school.

Signs of Child Become a Victim Bullying

Here are some signs to recognize if your child is being bullied or not:

a.       There is a wound that can not be explained

Wound or injury that trying to hide the child, should be a major concern. Remind your child that no one has the right to hurt them. Encourage them to tell me what happened to you. Such information is needed so that this problem can be dealt with by the school teachers, the course aims to end the persecution.

b.      Clothes torn or missing items

If the child returned from school with torn clothing or circumstances exist that lost their belongings without reasonable explanation, you should investigate the possible causes in an appropriate manner and support.

c.       Experiencing physical illness

Pain or malingering to avoid school could be an indication of emotional trauma. Bullying can negatively affect children's physical and emotional health. Therefore, it is you have to be alert to the cause.

d.      Lazy to go to school

If your child is a student who has a good performance in school and suddenly lost interest to go to school or the performance starts to decline, you should talk to the child and the teacher about the possible causes. Teachers may be able to give an explanation you can understand with regard to the child's relationship with his friends.

e.       Behave yourself hurt

Ashamed and confused, many victims of bullying is hard to ask for help. Never ignore symptoms such as self-harm, talks about suicide or escape, or other malicious behavior.

f.       Feeling of inferiority

Never ignore anxiety, depression or low self-esteem marks that appear suddenly. Because any stress whatsoever behavior requires immediate attention from their parents. Build good communication with the children, so that they feel safe enough to speak openly and honestly about the fear they experienced.

g.      Solitude

If the child began to isolate themselves from friends and family, get the right solution for knowing what the reason. Shut down or solitude in children, there is a possibility the child has become a victim of bullying. You try a more subtle approach to your child, so that your child will tell about the real situation.