Bullying is a loan word
from the English language. Bullying comes from the word meaning bully bully,
those who disturb the weak. Some terms in Indonesian society that is often used
to describe the phenomenon of bullying of which is oppression, bullying,
hazing, bullying, isolation, and intimidation.
Bullying is repeated
physical attacks, psychological, social, or verbal, is performed in a position
defined situational forces for their own benefit or satisfaction. Bullying is
an early form of aggressive behavior that is rude behavior. Can be physical,
psychological, through words, or even a combination of all three. This can be
done by groups or individuals. Perpetrators take advantage of others who saw
vulnerable.
Bullying is an act in
which one or more people try to hurt or control others by violent means. There
are many types of bullying. Could harm the physical forms, such as hitting,
pushing, and so on. In the form of verbal was insulting, snapped, and using
harsh words, while the social forms such as isolating, and ignore people. Some
examples of bullying most frequently encountered around us are seniors confront
the younger classes as judged act. Student orientation period that ended badly
because of the excessive seniors work on the new students. Classmates who
considered odd isolated, and no one wants to be friends with him.
Impact
of Bullying
Impact for victims
Bullying can make a
person feel anxious and frightened. Can affect the concentration of learning in
school and lead them to avoid school. If the bullying continues in the long
term it can affect students' self-esteem, social isolation increases, raises
withdrawn behavior, make teenagers vulnerable to stress and depression, and
insecurity. Worse yet, bullying can lead teens to do reckless, even kill, or
commit suicide. If the override bullying victim repeatedly, then the victim
will feel depressed and angry. He was angry with himself or against bullies.
Even for those around
him and to adults who can not or do not want to help him. It is kemudan
starting to affect academic achievement. Seeing no longer able to come up with
constructive ways to control his life, he may retreat further into isolation.
The negative impact of bullying also looks at the decline in intelligence test
scores and students' analytical skills.
Impact for perpetrators
In general, these
actors have a high confidence with high self-esteem as well. Tend to be
aggressive with the behavior of pro-violence, typical of the rampart,
irritability and impulsivity. The perpetrators of this bullying has a strong
need to dominate others and less empathy towards the target. Bullies can not
develop healthy relationships. Less capable of looking at it from another perspective.
Considers that they are strong and preferably so as to affect the pattern of
social relations in the future.
By doing the bullying,
the perpetrator will assume that they have the power of the state. If allowed
to continue without intervention, bullying can lead to the formation of other
behaviors such as child abuse and other criminal behavior.
Why did happen bullying?
The perpetrators bully
get satisfaction from the oppressive people. He felt stronger and more powerful
because there are people who are afraid of him. Maybe he was thinking, he would
gain popularity in schools as feared by the other students. Another reason is
because they repress their envy in excess of the target of bullying them. They
feel threatened by the presence of someone who is prettier or smarter than
them. Or actually they have a problem that causes them to oppress to channel
their anger to others. They do not know what impact bullyingnya actions against
their victims. So they do not feel guilty for his actions.
Why could become a victim of bullying?
People who are usually
targeted for repression is a person who has a noticeable difference compared to
the others. This difference could be physical, style of dress, and behavior.
The most common example is the seniors do not like the younger class that act,
so dilabrak out by class brothers. This led the juniors feel scared or afraid
to act wandering around the school.
Signs of Child Become a Victim Bullying
Here are some signs to recognize if your
child is being bullied or not:
a.
There is a wound that can not be
explained
Wound or injury that
trying to hide the child, should be a major concern. Remind your child that no
one has the right to hurt them. Encourage them to tell me what happened to you.
Such information is needed so that this problem can be dealt with by the school
teachers, the course aims to end the persecution.
b.
Clothes torn or missing items
If the child returned
from school with torn clothing or circumstances exist that lost their
belongings without reasonable explanation, you should investigate the possible
causes in an appropriate manner and support.
c.
Experiencing physical illness
Pain or malingering to
avoid school could be an indication of emotional trauma. Bullying can
negatively affect children's physical and emotional health. Therefore, it is
you have to be alert to the cause.
d.
Lazy to go to school
If your child is a
student who has a good performance in school and suddenly lost interest to go
to school or the performance starts to decline, you should talk to the child
and the teacher about the possible causes. Teachers may be able to give an
explanation you can understand with regard to the child's relationship with his
friends.
e.
Behave yourself hurt
Ashamed and confused,
many victims of bullying is hard to ask for help. Never ignore symptoms such as
self-harm, talks about suicide or escape, or other malicious behavior.
f.
Feeling of inferiority
Never ignore anxiety,
depression or low self-esteem marks that appear suddenly. Because any stress
whatsoever behavior requires immediate attention from their parents. Build good
communication with the children, so that they feel safe enough to speak openly
and honestly about the fear they experienced.
g.
Solitude
If the child began to
isolate themselves from friends and family, get the right solution for knowing
what the reason. Shut down or solitude in children, there is a possibility the
child has become a victim of bullying. You try a more subtle approach to your
child, so that your child will tell about the real situation.
